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Wednesday
Dec052007

This one's for you, YOUMAKEMESICK.

I try not to engage the trolls, but the latest rash of negativity is getting me down. Historically, when I am bummed out by my blog, I avoid it for a few days, but as you may know, that is no longer an option for me. I am committed, people.

Apparently I have angered some people with my "donate" button. (And I agree with the comments that "donate" is a misleading term, and implies that I need a kidney. I mean, I would love an extra kidney, just as a backup, but need is overstating the matter. I would prefer calling it "tips" or some such, but the button belongs to PayPal. Maybe I could design my own? This is outside my sphere of knowledge. I am but a humble wordsmith.) (Wow, could that have been a longer aside? I don't think so.) I know that they're angry because they’ve used words like "bitch" and "whore," and people don't generally call you these things when they're pleased with you.

At first I was amused by the sad people who have nothing better to do than hurl invective at the Internet. But the comments accumulated, and now I'm cranky. Given that donations (tips, contributions, whatever) are strictly optional, that I am demanding exactly nothing but rather providing an opportunity for those who want to contribute to do so, I think the anger directed at the idea of donating is an excuse. An excuse to spit at "stupid mommybloggers" who dare to think that their "useless blogs" (actual quotes, dear readers!) are worth anything. If you have that much contempt for me and my ilk, why are you here? Move along, sir or madam; there's plenty of porn or celebrity gossip out there you could enjoy instead. You know: real content that deserves money.

It can't just be about the idea of donating. To paraphrase my friend Kyran, I doubt that you routinely kick over open guitar cases on the sidewalk, or fling piano-top brandy snifters against the wall.

Although maybe you do. The next time I see someone on the street, punching his hand through a top hat while a mime silently weeps, I'll say hi.

Reader Comments (137)

I'm sorry you have to read that stuff. Those people haven't any manners at all.

Your blog is awesome and I read it every day!
December 5, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterJM
I don't get it. I just don't get why when someone stumbles upon a blog and doesn't like what they see, they don't just scroll up to the little "X" and be on their way, never to visit again but never to hurl "whore" again because OH MY GOODNESS, nothing causes people to take you seriously and listen to your point of view like the word whore. What is wrong with people?

Leave the button. Some people want to contribute and show you that all this effort you put forth isn't unnoticed and is appreciated.

I'm sorry for any backlash. You don't deserve it. And it sucks that the real whores out there are making it hard for you.
December 5, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterShe Likes Purple
Oh my goodness, Alice, some people just have too much time on their hands (or too much jealousy). I love your blog - I'm glad you won't be avoiding it!

And, I have to say that "stupid mommybloggers" kinda underscores the ignorance. Even my 4 year old can come up with a better insult than "stupid". :)

I say definitely leave the donate button.
December 5, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterLinsey
Oh, for crying out loud. This is for the haters: if you don't want to donate, don't donate! It is possible to IGNORE THE BUTTON. Or, failing that, just go somewhere else. Those of us who enjoy this blog--whether we choose to "donate" or not--won't miss you.

Don't people have anything better to do during the holiday season (or anytime, really) than crap all over somebody else for no reason? Sheesh.
December 5, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterTara
I just "donated" to spite the trolls! (and because I enjoy your blog).Thank you!
December 5, 2007 | Unregistered Commenterakimbo
That's terrible! Some people just look for reasons to be cruel. you are great, and I say leave the button!!
December 5, 2007 | Unregistered Commenterashley
Hahaha! I don't get it. Your blog, your choice. How does it affect them? Tsk, tsk....they're not getting enough sex. That's what it is.
December 5, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterBig Pumpkin
Well, I read your blog because you are an exceptional writer and I enjoy it immensely - every day. Never quit.

Actually, I didn't see the button until you mentioned it in a post. I'm oblivious.

Some people are so sad and in so much pain, they have to share it with others and bring them down in hopes to feel better. They don't.

So, don't listen to them, you are the best, numeral uno, the tops.

I hope that helps override the negative just a bit.
December 5, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterAmy
Hi. This is my first time commenting here. I think the donation button is a brilliant idea! You do deserve to get paid for what you love to do. And from what I've seen on your blog, you do it extremely well!
December 5, 2007 | Unregistered Commenterblue peacock
you could insult your dog, that would bring out the trolls too. and then you could take up donations for his therapy and everyone would be happy all round. sheesh. people are stupid (them, not you, I mean.)
December 5, 2007 | Unregistered Commenterbabelbabe
Dear Miss Slippy,

If I had enough money to eat a decent meal instead of my usual dinner of offbrand ritz crackers and slightly-expired-but-probably-okay ranch dressing, I would for sure donate to your awesome site. I love it, and rude people are lame.

-A Humble (and Hungry) College Student
December 5, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterLacey Jane
oh, and if you ever needed a kidney, I'd consider selling you one of mine...paid for of course by a PayPal button : )
December 5, 2007 | Unregistered Commenterbabelbabe
Funny, I stayed away from the comments on that entry after I saw the debates about the word alumni and it's various derivatives. Another one of the many times my grammar/spelling fears kept me out of trouble.
December 5, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterZoot
People pay for magazine content but are offended by the idea that someone might throw a few dollars towards a writer who posts on the internet?

Who invited the morons out to play?

Try to be all Dorothy Parker about it "I don't care what anybody says about me as long as it isn't true."
December 5, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterChris (Mombie)
Alice, if you would like, I would be happy to design a button for you to replace the generic paypal button. Just email me and let me know. Oh, and another bigger button that says something like, "Trolls - Away with your sorry asses."
December 5, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterDory
Honestly. Doesn't anyone teach the great lessons of Bambi anymore?

You are awesome, and these people are horrifying, petty and, yes, jealous.

HATE.



December 5, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterSue
I love you! If I had anything extra I'd certainly donate a little to you! Tell you what- If I EVER actually get a child support check I'll kick a little back to you, in the name of Karma, cause reading my favorite blogs makes my day better and my life a little lighter. And don't listen to those meanies.
December 5, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterAriel
"Don't let the bastards grind you down" I read your blog and I appreciate your efforts. I haven't commented before, but I'm so sick of the negativity and as someone said before - bad manners - of some people. I don't always agree with everything you say or do, but that's humanity isn't it - it doesn't give me the right to hurl abuse at you. I think you're doing something fantastic and I hope you get lots of money from it and do it for a very long time!
December 5, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterCrystal
Delurking to say that I love your blog and read it every day! (And I would totally donate if I weren't a penniless graduate student.) Don't let those meanies get you down. Long live finslippy!
December 5, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterEmily
hey, what's wrong with celebrity gossip? heh.

there's really not enough eyerolling in the world to adequately summarize my feelings about those comments. that line of trolling is so old it's getting a bit moldy around the edges.

for the record, let me say to the haters: people have been getting paid for writing since the invention of the printing press. it is, in fact, quite a common occurrence historically. some writers have even had these things called sponsors: private individuals who donate money to encourage the author and make it possible for them to continue writing while doing things like, oh, EATING. this has been going on for centuries. look into it, assmunch. just because *you* can't get paid for *your* writing doesn't mean that others -- people who actually CAN write, and write well -- shouldn't.

Love,Sweetney, fellow writer-whore





December 5, 2007 | Unregistered Commentersweetney
hey, what's wrong with celebrity gossip? heh.

there's really not enough eyerolling in the world to adequately summarize my feelings about those comments. that line of trolling is so old it's getting a bit moldy around the edges.

for the record, let me say to the haters: people have been getting paid for writing since the invention of the printing press. it is, in fact, quite a common occurrence historically. some writers have even had these things called sponsors: private individuals who donate money to encourage the author and make it possible for them to continue writing while doing things like, oh, EATING. this has been going on for centuries. look into it, assmunch. just because *you* can't get paid for *your* writing doesn't mean that others -- people who actually CAN write, and write well -- shouldn't.

Love,Sweetney, fellow writer-whore





December 5, 2007 | Unregistered Commentersweetney
My lovely Alice, don't let the haters make you glum. I think the donations button is a brilliantastic idea. You add a sparkle to the days of so many people...why shouldn't they have the opportunity to add a sparkle to yours? Put the rubbish in the trash heap where it belongs.
December 5, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterAnnabanana
If you'd like a "tips" button, I would gladly make you one and tell you how to get it in the donate button's place. Seriously. Not a big deal.
December 5, 2007 | Unregistered Commenterkate
These are the same kinds of people who forget that they can actually change the television channel or radio station with little or no effort on their part. Sorry you had to deal with hate mail. I still love Finslippy!
December 5, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterJen in CT
I totally agree that we should get paid to write. I'm trying out some ads as well and hoping to eventually make some money blogging. In the meantime, to back up my rhetoric, I just donated to you! Because I love your writing. And it seemed only right.
December 5, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterMrs. Who

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